jgh:
OK, seriously, not to threadjack, but I’m tired of the polamory community getting all holier-than-thou and acting like monogamists need to be “enlightened” by the inherent superiority of fucking lots of people.
Monogamy is just as valid of a sexual and romantic choice as polyamory. It may not be as cool, and it may lead to silly debates about the validity of flirting, but what the heck is wrong with knowing what you want, setting limits, advocating for yourself?
As for flirting, every couple has different boundaries. Beware the man (or woman) who won’t even let you have opposite-sex friends (that’s Lifetime channel stalker material), but otherwise, it’s up to y’all and what you’re comfortable with.
(And for the record, I’ve been both monogamous and open. Each option has its pros and cons. I prefer the former.)
That will teach me to think about what I’m posting. I also dislike polyamorists who act holier than thou (It’s my main issue with The Ethical Slut). The laughing was a more self satisfied, “oh thank god I don’t have to deal with that,” much like how I react when I hear tales of people’s drunken behavior (I’m a recovering alcoholic.) I consider polyamory/monogamy much like sexual orientation. It’s fluid within a seemingly biological spectrum. Some folks are not satisfied with a polyamorous relationship and some folks are not satisfied with a monogamist relationship. I apologize for coming off as “you unenlightened fools,” but, also, I have to comment that polyamory is not necessarily about “fucking lots of people” and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with knowing what you want and setting limits to attain it. That’s what my polyamory is all about.
Wow this so great. Now I know all those into polyamorous relationships. So, hi, I’ll see you around, if you know what I mean.
